Danah Gutierrez Talks About Sexiness and Shares A Haiku

Written by: Carla De Guzman/Tuesday, Sep 26, 2017 03:18 AM

Photos from Danah Gutierrez

"Tumataba ka na!" (You're getting fatter!)--It's a sentence everyone dreads hearing, and usually uttered by Titas who probably mean well, deep deep deep down. The words sting and burn, but it doesn't always have to. Body positivity advocate, author and half of the wonder twin duo of Plump.ph Danah Gutierrez doesn't think that labels and names should define your personality.

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After authoring The Big Fat Book of Self Love with her sister Stacy and going around the country teaching self-love workshops and talks, Danah's ready to take over the world.  In a quick, candid interview, we talk about what makes a body sexy, the importance of good taste, and a fun little haiku about her favorite body part. 

What does it mean to you to be sexy?
Sexy isn't about being vulgar, it isn't about giving yourself away easily or being provocative. I think that's a very shallow definition of sexy. Sexy is when I am comfortable with my sensuality as a woman, and knowing that I don't need the validation of men to exercise it. It's the quiet confidence in me and knowing that I am beautiful, capable, and empowered. 

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Is there anything in particular you do to make you feel sexy?
I feel sexy when I'm dressed sharply with my red lipstick on, while giving a talk to a crowd about our advocacy! Haha! 

When I wear my ______, I feel like I can take over the world.
Perfume.

Why that particular item?
I think smelling great is the cherry on top of a great attitude, polished outfit, and flawless makeup. It just makes me feel like I'm ready to get close to people when I smell great.

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I know we girls kind of have a favorite outfit. What’s yours? What makes that outfit special?
My favorite outfit would be my Hanz Coquilla blazer, casual jeans, and a tank or a V-neck shirt. It's easy, comfortable, and simple, but still very chic and casually elegant.

Do you have a style icon? What is it about them that made you think "Yes! I love that!"
My style icon would be Jay Miranda--she's a lawyer and a mom/plus size fashion-blogger. She's very feminine and sassy, but still very classy. I love how she dresses herself so gracefully that being plus size isn't the first thing you'd notice about her. She also makes the color pink look really cool.

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What’s the best fashion advice you’ve ever gotten?
Modesty does not mean baduy (unfashionable)!

Any advice for plus-sized girls on finding their inner sexiness?
Get rid of how the world defines sexy. What is sexy to you? Answer that. Not from a man's perspective. From YOUR perspective. You don't have to limit sexiness to lewdness or vulgarity. Sexy is sexiest when it's not on display for the world to see, but then again, that's just me. Finding your inner sexiness means you're at peace with who you are, you like what you see (your body), and how you make use of it (your purpose).

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How do you deal with criticism about your body, especially when they say things like "Your outfits are too sexy," or not bagay (appropriate)?
I've gotten a few of these criticisms when I model in swimsuits. But that's the thing, these comments are so few compared to the love I get from people who understand our message, so I just take 'em with a grain of salt. I can't please everyone, and not everyone gets our advocacy. That's a reality we're comfortable facing.

Do you have an inner critic? What do you do when she starts talking?
OF COURSE! I think we all do. I pray. I seek counsel from godly mentors, women who are strong in their faith and identity. Sometimes, I still tend to base my worth or identity on what my loved ones say, but I was reminded recently (by a mentor) that I'm still my own person, and my only real identity and worth comes from the One who created me. So when I hear the negative voices of condemnation in my head, I read the Bible or remind myself of who I really am in Christ. If He says I am forgiven, valued, loved, and free, then these must be the truths about me.

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Any tips for finding plus size friendly outfits in the Philippines? Because it's really hard sometimes! 
I feel ya, gurl!!!! European brands and American brands mostly have our sizes, but they can be a bit pricey. But what I want plus size women to understand is that fast fashion wastes away easily. It's better to invest. I highly recommend to find your signature style, then look for wardrobe inspirations online. You can build a capsule wardrobe with 20 to 30 pieces of clothing+shoes! Less is more.

I enjoy mixing and matching and pouring out my creativity into dressing myself, because I realized I don't have to keep spending to ride with the trends. I refuse to be a slave of what's popular, especially if it's getting in the way of  the discipline of my finances. I want to be a good steward of the blessings God has given me. You just have to invest in the right items, discern whether or not it fits your personality and flatters your body type, and if you can style it more than thrice, that's money well-spent!

Do you have a favorite body part? Write a haiku about why you love it. 

My Brows.

My eyebrows are wow.
They get so much attention.
I will groom them now.

 

What are your thoughts on body positivity? Share some love in the comments below!

 

About Carla De Guzman
Carla de Guzman is the author of self-published books Cities, Marry Me Charlotte B! and We Go Together. She loves to travel, coming home to her dog Kimchi and spending her weekends having dinner with her crazy family by day. By night, she’s writer and an artist, spending her midnights at her desk. Follow her on Instagram (@somemidnights) for more!
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